Stop comparing: Focus on your own journey
We all do it. Compare our lives with others. Scrolling through Instagram, seeing that friend crushing it with exotic trips, killer tricks, and epic accomplishments while you’re just trying to figure out if the wind will pick up this weekend. You start thinking, “Am I behind? Am I missing something? Where’s my adventure, my discipline, my big moment?”
But here’s the thing: comparing yourself to someone else is like trying to compare a kite to a car. It just doesn’t make sense. Why? Because we’re all different—different experiences, different lives, and very different circumstances. So yeah, why do we do it?
Why we compare ourselves (and why it doesn’t work)
For me, it’s often this weird blend of curiosity and insecurity. I want to see how far I’ve come—or how far behind I am. And yeah, maybe there’s a part of me that’s just looking to fit in or feel validated. After all, we’re social creatures, right? We look at what others are doing and sometimes wonder, “Should I be doing that too?”
Here’s the tricky part: while we’re comparing ourselves, jealousy often sneaks in. We see what others have, and it hits us—“Why don’t I have that?”
Jealousy as a aignpost: What is it telling you?
While comparing yourself to others, jealousy often tags along. It’s easy to feel like someone else has it better, whether it’s their kiteboarding skills, lifestyle, or accomplishments. But here’s the good news: jealousy isn’t all bad. It’s like a signpost showing you what you want.
When you’re jealous of someone, it’s not just because they have something—it’s because they have something that speaks to you. Maybe it’s freedom, adventure, or a new skill. Instead of letting jealousy make you feel down, use it as a guide. Ask yourself, “What is this telling me about my goals?”
Jealous of someone’s kiteboarding skills? Maybe it’s a sign to put more time into practice or focus on mastering that tricky move. Envious of their lifestyle? Take it as a cue to evaluate your own and make the changes you want.
Set your own goals and stick to them
Now, back to your goals. You’ve got them, and that’s awesome. The thing is, achieving them is a journey, and here’s the kicker: you’re in charge of how you get there. Some people reach their goals quickly, others take their time, and some of us (myself included) might stop for a breather or two along the way. The timeline? That’s all up to you. Don’t sweat it if someone else seems to get there faster. They’re on their own path, and you’re on yours.
Share your goals and celebrate your wins
Talking about your goals with others can be incredibly motivating. Share them with friends, family, or even online communities. Not because you need validation, but because it opens up opportunities for support. Struggling with a particular move on the water? Someone might have been there and have advice.
And don’t forget to celebrate your wins, no matter how small. Landed a trick? Crushed a workout? Finally tackled a fear? Talk about it! Achievements, even the little ones, deserve recognition, and sharing them might just inspire someone else to chase their own goals.
Final thoughts: Your journey, your pace
In the end, your goals are yours. They’re personal, they’re important, and they’re all about you. So yes, maybe someone else has that shiny ALUULA kite or seems to be progressing faster, but remember: you’re working toward your own finish line, and that’s the only one that matters.
Comparing yourself to others is tempting, and jealousy often tags along for the ride. But instead of letting it discourage you, use it as a guide. Let it show you what you truly want, keep your eyes on your own journey, and remember: it’s not about who gets there first—it’s about getting there in a way that feels right for you.
xox Berit