How to stay motivated when learning new tricks

The mind game of kitesurf progression

We all know that feeling. You’re hyped to land a new trick, you crash twenty times, and suddenly, watching your kite drift away sounds more appealing than trying again. Welcome to the mental battlefield of progression. It’s not just about technique; it’s about mindset.

If you've ever found yourself yelling at your board, doubting your skills, or considering taking up knitting instead, you’re not alone, because I’ve thought many times about splitting my board in half. So how can we deal with it? And how can I deal with it, because honestly, I haven’t figured it out yet…

My struggle with progression

I’ll be honest. Progression and I have a love-hate relationship. One day, I feel unstoppable. The next, I can’t land a simple transition without flopping into the water like a confused seal. I just want to land that trick in at least the first few tries, you know…

For me, the biggest mental block is frustration and fear. First of all, I don’t go all in on a new trick. I watch videos, analyze the steps, even visualize it in my head, but when I hit the water, I somehow manage to talk myself out of it. And when I finally do try and don’t land it after a few attempts, my brain starts whispering things like: Maybe I’m just not built for this. Maybe I should stick to what I know. Maybe don’t try…

But here’s what I’ve realized:

• Progress isn’t linear: Some days, you nail it. Other days, the ocean humbles you. And maybe progress is in the small details. Maybe you’re not landing the trick, but your kite control has improved massively while trying.

• Fear is part of the process: The brain doesn’t like uncertainty. Accepting that fear is normal helps.

• Comparison is useless: Just because someone else lands a trick faster doesn’t mean you’re failing. I know, this is a hard one, but everyone’s progress is different. Maybe they struggle with a trick you can do blindfolded. Just focus on your own journey and learn from others.

Mental strategies to stay motivated

Sometimes, you need a little extra help. Even just knowing these strategies can push you forward. The most important one? Be kind to yourself and try to enjoy your kite sessions. We kite because we love the feeling, right?! So here are a few of my favorites:

Reframe failure: It’s just data

Every failed attempt gives you feedback. Instead of thinking, I suck at this, try What went wrong, and how can I fix it?

Small wins matter: Celebrate them

Landing a trick isn’t just about the final move. Did you pop higher? Did you get the board in the right position? Recognize the small victories, and motivation will follow.

Break it down: One step at a time

Instead of obsessing over the full trick, focus on micro-skills:

• For a backroll: First, get comfortable with controlled rotations.

• For a jibe on a directional: Work on foot placement before adding speed.

• For a kite loop: Start with a gentle loop before going full send.

It helps to break down the trick and get comfortable with every step. Plus, small wins along the way keep you motivated.

Ride with the right people

Some people push you forward, others drain your energy. Ride with those who challenge you, cheer for you, and occasionally tell you to stop overthinking. And don’t forget, sometimes, they have just the right tip to help you stick that new trick. Be open to feedback; the right people want to see you succeed.

Accept that some sessions will suck

Not every session will be a breakthrough. Some will be an ego check. The key? Show up anyway. Even a bad session is better than no session. I like to tell myself that every session teaches me something. A horrible wave-riding session where I get swallowed by multiple waves? Now I know how to handle waves while in them. That’s progress too.

The key to progression: Show up, wipe out, repeat

Progression isn’t magic; it’s a cycle of failing, adjusting, and trying again. If you’re struggling with motivation, take a step back, tweak your approach, and most importantly, keep showing up.

If you’re really stuck, take a step back. Maybe focus on getting the feeling back by doing tricks you already know. Or mix things up with a fun session where crashing is the main goal. I love those.

And if nothing else works, remember: The ocean doesn’t care how many times you fail, but your kite might start questioning your life choices.

xox Berit